one thousand four hundred
& sixtieth day
by: danielle
Who in this world would've thought that we will make it up to 4 years?! charot hahahaha so here's some of my realizations during our four years, how my perspective about love & relationship changes and kung anong matripan kong ilagay.
disclaimer: tagalog-english article
disclaimer: tagalog-english article
1. Balance togetherness & individuality. This one is very important. We don't demand too much time from each other. I've learned that it is healthy if you have your "me-time" as well. Di required na mag date kayo araw-araw tapos pag di magkasama nagtetext o nagchchat din kayo all day long. Bebequoh, give time to other things, there's a lot of things to do. There are times na good morning at good night lang message namin sa isa't isa hahaha minsan sinasabi lang yung agenda for the day. Infairness naman, okay na okay pa din kami hahaha. Balance lang. Too much of everything is bad for your health.
2. Freedom. Ayoko ng may sakalang nagaganap hahaha wag ikulong ang isa't isa sa relationship niyo. Let each other bond or socialize with other people. DI PURO KAYO LANG. If may plans kami with family or friends, di kami nagpapaalam, more on pinapaalam lang namin sa isa't isa. Dati, daig ko pa nanay niya sa di pagpayag sa mga lakad niya, but then I realized that's a big NO no and it is really an immature act (hala? hahaha) As long as wala namang gagawing masama, let them. Tiwala lang ang kailangan diyan na walang gagawing masama yung isa (minsan kailangan mo lang maniwala) nasasayo na yan if gagawa ka ng mali.
3. Family day is family day. Kung may rulebook man kaming dalawa, hinding-hindi to mawawala since parehas naming pinapahalagahan yung family namin. If may family bonding yung isa samin, more likely di kami nag ttext or chat. Minsan nag uupdate if may available na time pero di namin dinidemand na mag usap habang nagbobonding with the fam. As long as we're not yet married & no valid reason, we will celebrate all the significant occassions with our families, walang exclusive date saming dalawa. We never make plans on Sundays as well (although may times na sunday yung appointment). Aside from it's a church day, yun lang yung time na lahat ng family members, present sa bahay. Dito din nappractice & nakikita yung value sa family namin. Para someday, ganun din yung ituturo and ia-apply namin sa magiging fambam namin. Pamili iz lyf.
4. Acceptance. I am blessed to have him because he accepts & loves my imperfections. Plus, we're both comfortable in sharing stories about our past (actually ako lang yung may makkwento hahahaha) One time, nagkwento ako sakanya about sa ex&oh's ko tapos tinawanan lang ko?! Sabi ko bakit siya tumatawa, na siguro kung iba yun, aawayin na ko and I will never forget his answer- "...I accept you & your past" (charot di yan exact words pero yan yung thought hahahaha) I find it cool kasi di niya ko jina-judge sa mga kwento ko (ewan ko lang baka sa isip niya oo) never kaming nag away dahil sa ganyang issue. He was never insecure because he said what matters is that I am with him today (tuhruuuy) so tanggap tanggap lang because you cannot change the past.
5. Growth. Being in this relationship taught me that you should help each other grow as a person. Motivate each other to go out of their comfort zone. Explore & learn. Di namin nililimitahan yung isa't isa sa mga gusto naming gawin lalo na pag alam naman namin na may matututunan kami dun. Sobrang pinupush namin yung isa't isa na gawin yung best namin sa lahat ng bagay na ginagawa namin. We let each other learn from our mistakes as well. Kung may maling nagawa yung isa, pagsasabihan na yan ng isa, Minsan kasi pag di mo inayos yung mali na yun, may chance na maulit. Kung maoffend siya sa mga sasabihin mo, at least nalaman niyang may mali siya. We never comfort each other with lies. We let each other face the consequences but we're always there to comfort each other.
6. This is a big world. Sabi ko nga sakanya, "if you're in a relationship dapat di lumiliit mundo niyo, dapat lumalaki." Aside from mutual friends, some of my friends became his friends & some of his friends became my friends as well (puro friends) Okay lang samin kung may maging close kami na opposite sex. Di kami yung wagas-magselos type of person hahaha. Di namin pinipigilan yung isa't isa sa mga kinakaibigan namin EXCEPT pag nagiging bad influence na. Minsan mas gusto namin lumabas kasama yung friends pati mga ka-loveteam nila hahaha para diba, new friends (yes naman) Tsaka if walang ka-lovetem yung kasama namin, di kami yung couple na mahilig mang thirdwheel. Ang awkward para samin nun haha kaya siguro may mga friends kaming comfortable na sumama samin.
7. No pabebe allowed. Narealized ko na di nakakatuwa ang pagiging pabebe. Dati may tampo effect ako pag lalabas or magbabasketball siya with friends, kaya ngayon pag naaalala ko nabbwiset ako sa pagiging pabebe ko DATI (oo, dati lang) I don't know, maybe because I am a strong woman now? CHAROT hahahahaha (I am a strong independent woman pero samahan mo kong tumawid at hatid mo ko pauwi) whatever. Minsan pag nase-sepanx ako sakanya and biglang aayain if pwede ba siya o hindi, at di siya pwede, okay na okay lang sakin hahaha di ko na ipupush at baka magsinungaling pa ang bata sa ina niya and that's a no no no no baby boy. Isa din yan sa natutunan ko, never magsinungaling para lang makipag eyeball (hala very inday)
8. think about the future. bago kami mag decide, we think about the possible effect/result nito sa future. di yung "living in the moment" always. in our conversation nowadays, mas nag mature lang talaga kami. laging involved yung future future future, pero syempre dont overthink, isipin pa din yung present hahahaha
9. pride and or ego is not allowed. matic na yan sa lahat ng relationships di lang sa romatic relationships. we've already been through o.a. fights & pataasan ng pride at its finest & learned that it will never have a good effect/result in our relationship. saying sorry & fixing the problem isn't that hard anyway. you'd rather swallow that freakin' pride than to lose the person (pili ka na lang hahahaha)
10. Everything makes sense. last but not the least, having him in my life for four years now, make me realized that everything from the past now makes sense. one thing na natutunan ko din since i was a kid, pagdating sa relationship or sa lalaking idi-date or dini-date ko, hanggat may kumukontra lalo na pag yung malalapit na tao sayo, wag mo na yun i-push kasi ibig sabihin there's something wrong. i've experienced that before pero kay carlo, wala. majority says na malulungkot or maiiyak or masasaktan sila pag nag break kami kaya wag na daw kami mag break hahahaha. i feel like he is really the one, kasi all those people na nawitness yung relationship namin from the beginning, yung mga taong kilala ko since i was a kid says, "nararamdan ko na si carlo na talaga because i can see it on how he treats & loves you" maffeel mo na lang din talaga siguro yun kung siya na, and i can say na ngayon ko lang naramdaman tong nararamdaman kong love sakanya. genuine love. kung saan di ka takot ipakita imperfections mo kasi alam mong di ka niya iiwan. he's perfect for me. and i cant imagine my life without him. pero never pa din mawawala sa prayers ko yung relationship namin para solid hahahaha
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2. Freedom. Ayoko ng may sakalang nagaganap hahaha wag ikulong ang isa't isa sa relationship niyo. Let each other bond or socialize with other people. DI PURO KAYO LANG. If may plans kami with family or friends, di kami nagpapaalam, more on pinapaalam lang namin sa isa't isa. Dati, daig ko pa nanay niya sa di pagpayag sa mga lakad niya, but then I realized that's a big NO no and it is really an immature act (hala? hahaha) As long as wala namang gagawing masama, let them. Tiwala lang ang kailangan diyan na walang gagawing masama yung isa (minsan kailangan mo lang maniwala) nasasayo na yan if gagawa ka ng mali.
3. Family day is family day. Kung may rulebook man kaming dalawa, hinding-hindi to mawawala since parehas naming pinapahalagahan yung family namin. If may family bonding yung isa samin, more likely di kami nag ttext or chat. Minsan nag uupdate if may available na time pero di namin dinidemand na mag usap habang nagbobonding with the fam. As long as we're not yet married & no valid reason, we will celebrate all the significant occassions with our families, walang exclusive date saming dalawa. We never make plans on Sundays as well (although may times na sunday yung appointment). Aside from it's a church day, yun lang yung time na lahat ng family members, present sa bahay. Dito din nappractice & nakikita yung value sa family namin. Para someday, ganun din yung ituturo and ia-apply namin sa magiging fambam namin. Pamili iz lyf.
4. Acceptance. I am blessed to have him because he accepts & loves my imperfections. Plus, we're both comfortable in sharing stories about our past (actually ako lang yung may makkwento hahahaha) One time, nagkwento ako sakanya about sa ex&oh's ko tapos tinawanan lang ko?! Sabi ko bakit siya tumatawa, na siguro kung iba yun, aawayin na ko and I will never forget his answer- "...I accept you & your past" (charot di yan exact words pero yan yung thought hahahaha) I find it cool kasi di niya ko jina-judge sa mga kwento ko (ewan ko lang baka sa isip niya oo) never kaming nag away dahil sa ganyang issue. He was never insecure because he said what matters is that I am with him today (tuhruuuy) so tanggap tanggap lang because you cannot change the past.
5. Growth. Being in this relationship taught me that you should help each other grow as a person. Motivate each other to go out of their comfort zone. Explore & learn. Di namin nililimitahan yung isa't isa sa mga gusto naming gawin lalo na pag alam naman namin na may matututunan kami dun. Sobrang pinupush namin yung isa't isa na gawin yung best namin sa lahat ng bagay na ginagawa namin. We let each other learn from our mistakes as well. Kung may maling nagawa yung isa, pagsasabihan na yan ng isa, Minsan kasi pag di mo inayos yung mali na yun, may chance na maulit. Kung maoffend siya sa mga sasabihin mo, at least nalaman niyang may mali siya. We never comfort each other with lies. We let each other face the consequences but we're always there to comfort each other.
6. This is a big world. Sabi ko nga sakanya, "if you're in a relationship dapat di lumiliit mundo niyo, dapat lumalaki." Aside from mutual friends, some of my friends became his friends & some of his friends became my friends as well (puro friends) Okay lang samin kung may maging close kami na opposite sex. Di kami yung wagas-magselos type of person hahaha. Di namin pinipigilan yung isa't isa sa mga kinakaibigan namin EXCEPT pag nagiging bad influence na. Minsan mas gusto namin lumabas kasama yung friends pati mga ka-loveteam nila hahaha para diba, new friends (yes naman) Tsaka if walang ka-lovetem yung kasama namin, di kami yung couple na mahilig mang thirdwheel. Ang awkward para samin nun haha kaya siguro may mga friends kaming comfortable na sumama samin.
7. No pabebe allowed. Narealized ko na di nakakatuwa ang pagiging pabebe. Dati may tampo effect ako pag lalabas or magbabasketball siya with friends, kaya ngayon pag naaalala ko nabbwiset ako sa pagiging pabebe ko DATI (oo, dati lang) I don't know, maybe because I am a strong woman now? CHAROT hahahahaha (I am a strong independent woman pero samahan mo kong tumawid at hatid mo ko pauwi) whatever. Minsan pag nase-sepanx ako sakanya and biglang aayain if pwede ba siya o hindi, at di siya pwede, okay na okay lang sakin hahaha di ko na ipupush at baka magsinungaling pa ang bata sa ina niya and that's a no no no no baby boy. Isa din yan sa natutunan ko, never magsinungaling para lang makipag eyeball (hala very inday)
8. think about the future. bago kami mag decide, we think about the possible effect/result nito sa future. di yung "living in the moment" always. in our conversation nowadays, mas nag mature lang talaga kami. laging involved yung future future future, pero syempre dont overthink, isipin pa din yung present hahahaha
9. pride and or ego is not allowed. matic na yan sa lahat ng relationships di lang sa romatic relationships. we've already been through o.a. fights & pataasan ng pride at its finest & learned that it will never have a good effect/result in our relationship. saying sorry & fixing the problem isn't that hard anyway. you'd rather swallow that freakin' pride than to lose the person (pili ka na lang hahahaha)
10. Everything makes sense. last but not the least, having him in my life for four years now, make me realized that everything from the past now makes sense. one thing na natutunan ko din since i was a kid, pagdating sa relationship or sa lalaking idi-date or dini-date ko, hanggat may kumukontra lalo na pag yung malalapit na tao sayo, wag mo na yun i-push kasi ibig sabihin there's something wrong. i've experienced that before pero kay carlo, wala. majority says na malulungkot or maiiyak or masasaktan sila pag nag break kami kaya wag na daw kami mag break hahahaha. i feel like he is really the one, kasi all those people na nawitness yung relationship namin from the beginning, yung mga taong kilala ko since i was a kid says, "nararamdan ko na si carlo na talaga because i can see it on how he treats & loves you" maffeel mo na lang din talaga siguro yun kung siya na, and i can say na ngayon ko lang naramdaman tong nararamdaman kong love sakanya. genuine love. kung saan di ka takot ipakita imperfections mo kasi alam mong di ka niya iiwan. he's perfect for me. and i cant imagine my life without him. pero never pa din mawawala sa prayers ko yung relationship namin para solid hahahaha
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